Eat Sand, Drink Coke & Bathing in a Sandy Loo

the "hungs"

One lazy Sunday afternoon, the brothers and family decided to go to the Sunny Sentosa... although by the time we got ready, bought snacks, had lunch ... it was close to 4pm. I love seeing the boys and each time that i get to see them, i really cherish the moments we have together 3 beautiful, tactful boys who just brightens up your life, anytime.

Anyways, i dint swim as i dint want to feel all gooey and not having a proper private place to wash the salt water off.

i have no idea why love to pose like a dork

my mafia baby

my overgrown baby

blurpdates

a new year already. its bloody 2009! And with this brand new year, i hope and pray that this year will go by more smoothly, less chaotic and unpredictable and make my family even more closer than it was before.

It's a Partie!

Dad hit 65 last year and we honoured the day by throwing a small prayer session cum party with loved ones. Unfortunately, i did not manage to get him the golf cake this year. My old man received quite a good pool of presents this year including a Braun Buffel wallet and belt, a TekaTeka watch, Nike golf accessories and more golf tees for him...more clothes to wash for me!

Santa's Day....

Christmas was special too as we had a huge Saniff Family dinner at Carousel with about close to 30 of us attending that night. Sheer chaos, bitch fest, camera whoring, tummy piling gastronomic affair. It was good fun.

Back on the career track...

I got a job working for a teen golf academy in Singapore and am working at one of the country club range located in the East side. Traveling is a week bit troublesome due to the distance, but its tolerable. So far, so good. *fingers crossed*

Academic Status...

Schools is still on, final assignment due tonite and exams in 2 weeks. Yikes. I still remember how jittery i was sitting for the exams last year and since i am so used to typing, writing essays was a chore and it hurt my fingers so badly!! I wish we'd each be given a pc during exams, type out our answers, and hand in. This semester though, i had been a tad more lazy than i usually am and have missed several classes due to "appointments". Let's hope it wont take a toll on my exams.

Of sluts and bitches...

and, i have been wanting to give a married someone a tight slap for quite sometime already for her bitchiness and slutty-ness. But well, another tale for another day.

Maid-a-minute...

My favourite part time maid is giving me a difficult time by not ebing able to commit to coming over and overhauling my house anymore as she has taken on permanent employers. Me veri the sad. House veri the messy. sigh.

anione care to give a helping hand? No? Fine!

the enemy we welcomed into our home

my aunt, who is of a significant age, suffering for diabetes and other age related ailments was taken care of by a wonderful woman named Mira. She hailed from indonesia and was recruited as a domestic helper to care for my aunt and the rest of the family members who were living with her.

Mira's chores or duties were to mainly take care of my sick aunt. Mira was to bathe her, feed her her daily meals, tend to her needs and ensure that she takes her medicine as instructed by the doctors. My aunts mind has dwindled for the past few years and communication is scarce.

Mira was like god sent. She was this small, peite lady, always ready and willing to help out and take care of the family. She was quick with her work, nimble, always on her toes and is always seen doing her chores dilligently. She showed much love, care and concern for my ailing aunt as well.

She has been with the family for a good 1 year plus, her contract was supposed to end sometime at the end of this year and i believe, my family members were more than willing to extend that contract based on her loyalty and dedication to the family. This wonderful sweet lady however, wasnt whom she portrayed herself to really be.

Here's a list of things she did:

1. Since she was reliable and trusted, she was given the IDD number to make calls from the land line at home. She forked more than $2000 worth of telephone bills in a mere 2 months. When approached, she vehemently denied it, although having being shown the bills with indonesian numbers listed.

2. My ailing aunt kept much of the money given to her by relatives in her room. When we checked, the amount dwindled drastically although my ailing aunt NEVER ever handled cash or went out by herself to purchase stuff. Again she denied taking the money.

3. My other aunt, a frequent business traveller, had several hundred pounds taken from her wardrobe, thousands of japanese yen removed from her drawers and a piggy bank filled to the brim with coins left with only the coins covering the base of the piggy bank and also whatever loose change she had lying in her room, mysteriously vanishing. Again Mira denied being involved.

4. After the missing notes episode, my aunt got a safe and locked her door at all times. But Mira was adamant in searching for more money. My aunt came back to find her bedroom door pried and forced open. The hinges were damaged and once again Mira acted innocent.

5. We were shocked last year when we visited our aunt and was greeted by a face full of bruises. She had blot shot eyes, half of her face was badly swollen and her cheeks were puffy. Mira, who was supposed to spend most of her times being by my aunts side, apparently had no idea what happened to my sick aunt. She thought perhaps my aunt might have fallen.

6. Mira too had a fantastic time spitting into the food right in front of my aunt and forcing her to eat the food which had been spat at. 

7. Blood stains were found on my aunts pillows and further checks showed that she had deep cuts on her head. Guess what?! Mira had a fantastic time in the bathroom, using the shower head to repeatedly knock my aunt's head till it bled.

8. And wanting to save costs for the family, she bathed my aunt too occasionally using dirty water that was used to soak clothes overnight. The water of course would have contained clorox bleach and detergent.

9. Each time a family member came to visit, my aunt would sit with them and gobble down the food which was meant for visitors. Once, 6 curry puffs were served (by the wonderful and attentive Mira of course) to my dad and myself. Dad ate one, and my aunt ate the other 5 under 5 minutes. all these while we thought perhaps she should have been served enough good food everyday since my other relatives provided only the best food for her, but oh, since all are werking Mira was incharge of preparing and feeding her. My aunt lost a lot of weight in the past few months and suddenly it dawned on us. Mira perhaps wasnt feeding my aunt at all or feeding her very little during the day.

10. At times when we visited, my ailing aunt would be a little drowsy, a little "stoned" - and guess what? When checked, we realised Mira, highly possible, could have overdosed my aunt so that she can take her little trips to the mall to get the money she stole changed and TT it back to her home in Indonesia.

11. Last week , my aunt suffered from a dislocated shoulder. Doctors said that it is higly possible that she might have been pushed or shoved to have injured herself extensively.

Mira wasnt spared. She was sent back home.

What i think i want to get across is to always have a little caution when you hire these domestic helpers. You cant trust them 100% no matter how loyal and trustworthy they might seem. Mira was like an angel to all our family members. No one even had the faintest idea that she was capable of doing what she did. And whats worse, she dint apologise and wasnt remorseful for what she did. Not a shed of tear - perhaps because of the "fortune" waiting for her back home - money which belonged rightfully to my family.

To those who have no choice, but to leave the care of their children and elderly in the hands of the maids, try installing the CCTV if you can afford it. It could save a life and definitely ensure the safety of your loved ones. 

Sometimes, you wonder if the occurences of maid abuse came about out of nothing - or was it something they did to spark off the fury. Now, maid abuse is in the news. People caught for abusing their maids either verbally or physically. Lots of employer abuse i suppose goes unnoticed.

"i want to raise an issue"

when i bought hubby his iTouch about a year ago, i never understood what that small little gadget could do apart from keeping and playing his favourite songs. I thought that it was just a bigger version of my ipod nano and a gadget that looks a lot like the iphone. Over the months though, hubby "cracked" or "de-coded" some stuffs and downloaded several applications like the weather, dictionary, calculator (or does it already come with the iTouch), task lists, contacts lists etc.

and the only application that i understood and used was the game Lexitron, which was a version of the text twist game. Lately though, he made another remarkable "cracking session" and viola, the iTouch became so usable.. for me. Now i understood what hubby was raving about a year ago. We could actually surf the net on the bloody gadget!

Apart from the organisational applications and the games, he also has the iToday (an online version of the TODAY newspaper) in it! Suddenly, i felt that i wanted one! I WANT AN iTouch... perhaps its already a lil passe for many but hello... a tech bimbo like me takes a lil while to get a hang of things like this and takes months to appreciate the beauty of gadgets. so hubby has informed me that they cost about $200 plus now... compared to me purchasing the gadget for him at about $400 plus i think. i mite just get me one soon... or if my darling hubby gets the hint...then...

aniways, busu have been sleeping over for the past week and we have both done quite a good job with the laundry that has been piling. i have finally cleared the kueh rayas from their containers and cleaned out my fridge. 

these nearly 2 years of marriage has taught me many things. Taught me what it meant when someone says "you won't know a person until you are married". Even living together wasnt enough for someone to know about the other half as much as they wanted to. I admit, my marriage has its upheavals, it has its down side, but... it has it great moments as well. And sometimes, being human, we fail to notice the goodness of someone, the reasons why we chose our soulmates, why we fell in love with each other, and how blissful and wonderful we used to be. Don't get me wrong, hubby and i still enjoy all of that, but sometimes, we just get blinded by what is happening around us, to take notice the importance of just US.

we get too engrossed in  hoping we will meet each others expectations, we wait impatiently for either one of us to give up our bad habits, we are constantly on the prowl in pointing out mistakes that we both make and we endlessly try the wrong ways to solve things. We try to play each others games, we try to work things out using each other's problem solving tactics, and we fail to realise that it will never work, and it only ended up making each other more frustrated.

i have always believed that communication is of utmost importance in a relationship. and i thought i was the perfect communicator in our marriage. I thought that hubby was the one who kept things bottled up and made things more difficult each time we were faced with a situation. Trying to be him, i decided to do things his way too, keeping things bottled up and keeping silent..but knowing me, my mouth doesnt stay shut that long. So, the bomb explodes.

I dint know, during my transition period, i was unapproachable as well. With both keeping mum, the tension intensified and ww3 nearly broke out. But i believe, one shouldnt give up so easily, should not flee at the first sign of trouble and if it was something you cared and loved for dearly, it is worth every penny, every sweat, every word and strength to work it out.

alhamdullilah, the obstacles that we faced, dint damper us. It made us stronger, it made us stand together as ONE fighting off the obstacles that comes. And sacrifices. as easy as it is to pronounce, it is something not easily executed. Its time we both made sacrifices in our life to make things a whole lot easier to get through. and have the initiative to remove the obstacles when needed.

and now, "i want to raise an issue", as i put up my hands and stare intently at hubby.

:: Deciphered? ::

blah blah blabh blah, blah blah blah blah! 

Bla blah blah, blah blah blah..... blah blah.Blah blah blahhhhhhhhhhhh

hahahhaehhehe

blah blah blah. blah blah blah blah blahhhh blaaaaaah. blah blah blah blah hahah.

Another version:

BLAH.

My Reaction:

Awwwwwww so sweet... hugs!

:: its all about me ::

PR was good yesterday.

MMR later - most likely gonna flunk. I cant digest all in one day.

Damnit.

I owe carpark attendant $8.40 too.

I miss halloween.

I am sad that my dad is coughing badly and has sharp pains in his ankle.

i tested for pregnancy yesterday and still negative.

i am beginning to become one with my couch at home - permanent indention of my butt on the middle cushion.

Visited bibik today, looked much better than before.

Found out that Nyai's house very condusive for studying - no computer, no internet and no cable TV. Superbly comfortable chairs - might consider to make it my personal study space.

spent $150 in voucher at gramaphone and purchased about 8 to 10 DVDs - Gods must be crazy 2 being one of them.

Im late for my period - prolly due to stress and a lil bout of depression.

and i miss mak. miss her a lot.

:: i love reading! ::

I aint no expert on people behaviour but i guess some deductions are pretty common sense. How a person reacts to a conversation, how they move their body, twist their fingers in anxiety, or fidget in guilt, or show a certain facial expression, we basically get to deduce how a person is reacting to situations.

We do not need a lie detector, nor an IQ of a genius to tell why someone is reacting the way they are and if they are telling you the truth. (Sometimes, we really cant cover our lies due to modern technology you know - there are such thing as chat logs, history of pages visited, communication logs etc) Why they smile, or why they frown, or how they walk out of a room or listen intently to you, how they make eye contact when speaking or how they just don't bother and look at another direction (perhaps they really are listening!)

Its like when i met YP this afternoon at the canteen, the moment she came to my table, i immediately placed my heads in between my books, avoided eye contact and answered her questions nonchalantly. So im sure she gets the picture. Or of how i jumped in my knickers when hubby surprised me on my birthday - i was genuinely surprised, grateful and happy with what happened.

Some people are like open books, you meet them, talk to them a few times, spent some time reading their body language and you know just about everything about how this particular person reacts, their characters, likes and dislikes, attitudes etc.

But a big number of people arent open books. They hide behind the chapters and you have to read in between the lines to really know them well. But.. after reading for many years, isnt it ridiculous that you still cant understand the story?!

you're either too stupid or too naive in believing the story as how it is written, without considering to read in depth and understand the true meaning of the book and what message it is trying to get across... especially if its a book or topic you are supposedly very interested in.